Seriously?? It was also Boxing Day so during labour, he complained that there was nothing on TV. When it comes to how to live with an alcoholic husband, try not to make any major decisions without getting input from your spouse or partner first. So, do you maintain the rage? He said he needed to shower and run a couple of errands and get some lunch. Your scenario of DH's drinking hits so close to home for me. My hero. You all left 237(!) This is YOUR own husband being an alcoholic. This went on all day. Youre not to take it and should face it with confidence. In the car, everything was very annoying to me: the radio, the sound of my husband at the time talking on the phone, just everything. I guess you were right. You think? Luckily, I had the exact opposite experience . Some women experience other symptoms of labor with a bloody show: Cramping: You may feel period-like cramps that come and go over the course of hours or even days. If men only knew how much pain and exhaustion really goes into labor. If I were you, I would have a back up plan. He thinks he's being 110% supportive, and says he will, but just drinking when I could go into labor any day is NOT supporting IMO. but this isn't just within my relationships i'd say it's with friendships and working environment - REALLY envy those that have any guts to say what they feel. Yay, transition! -Katie. 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Indeed! IM IN LABOR, PEOPLE!!! How to Induce Labor the Right Way. Its amazing he still had the equipment to impregnate me one more time time!!!! This message, when put right, will force them to be in their best mood despite being overly drunk. You are pregnant, not we are pregnant. Youve done this before. I know the baby could come anytime now but I can't really worry too much about it or it will just make me worry more. Oh. Hubby went home to get a good nights rest the night I got induced. This happened to my friend. Needless to say, I snapped but couldnt yell at him in fear of waking up my sister (our babysitter) and our 2-year old. 1.) When they were out (it was 2am after all), HE WAITED FOR THEM TO BREW A FRESH POT. Most nights he drinks to the point of stumbling, and not . at around 11 pm when i started to vomit and asked if we should probably get to the hospital he said are you sure this time? After 26 hours of Oxytocin induced labour our son arrived and my hubby had the balls to say jokingly Well, at least we know hes hers! There was never any doubt about paternity, it was just his stupid sense of humour. Only when you will make them realize that it is a problem and it puts you in an awkward position afterward, they might understand the intensity of the issue and will look for a solution. "When I [give] with just with my doula and midwife alone, I can allow myself to do whatever is needed to get the baby out," she says. After the haircut I assume we will be leaving for the hospital and then he informs me he needs to take a shower to get the hair off. First is, do you have a backup person who can be there for you? So say he is out for a work meeting until 6, and he had 2 glasses of wine. He was much better with our sons birth though even cleaned up after me when I puked in the basin I still hold that first time against him though! It was winter so between contractions I had to warm up the car and take my bags out. Thats when I had to rouse him. Wear sneakers. LOL, you sound like my wifes ex. If that doesn't work,I have two thoughts. Is this the best way though? But he's probably young enough where that can all be avoided if he changes his patterns NOW. In order to do you, you might push your husband to loneliness, which eventually will lead to far more serious issues than now. She gets anxiety from any surgery, so her anxiety was high. Unless yo ass is imoan. I've tried explaining this to him, but he really thinks he deserves to unwind however he wants since he works so hard. Not saying you aren't important to him..I'm sure you mean the world to him but having a child is a whole new/different kind of love that might just make him realize the drinking like he does needs to slow down. Second, how important is it to your husband that he be at the birth? All parents have had to worry about this, I am sure you will be able to find someone who is willing to help you out. I just looked at him and siad Seriously!?! Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. I went into labor while he was sitting in the bay, alone in a boat. 1. At 6am. Lets just say that he ended up spending the night in the hospital with me. I am not supporting buzz driving at all - but, it is amazing how much a woman in labor will sober up a man. One of the most commonly talked about signs of impending labor, many women begin cleaning and re-arranging baby items in the days or hours before labor begins. He tried to Mapquest the directions while driving down the highway and almost killed us. When you sent the call out, you said husbands, and I totally forgot what my dad did the night I was born. It doesn't matter if its wine instead of hard drinks, the point is the dependency. What would you do? -Meredith, My husband had ONE job, ONE. I guess this is natures version of temporary amnesia because clearly, without it, wed never go back for more. This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. Finally, my Dad called the neighbors across the street to ask them to leave a note on the door of the house. The nurse ran out of room because she couldnt handle it. Once labor begins, it can take between 10 to 24 hours (or more) to progress through the three stages of labor before your baby is born. LOL, I love that Firefly episode! The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. Suffer. The birth of our child is not about him, it's about me and the baby. I turned to my husband and asked him to grab me a snack out of our bags. He drinks every night. With my 1st son, my husband wanted to take a shower before we left for the hospital. She was great because she understood. Or even if it wasnt, theres still a little bit of schadenfreude involved isnt there? When they dont have a limit, they will drink more than they need to and will surely be uncontrollable. Be an advocate. Only when you will make them realize that it is a problem and it puts you in an awkward position afterward. Its not that alot of us men are not trying. I was scared. Seriously. Here . Haha! My husband to me, You are loosing it. I tell her I need to go home. If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married. Check out this video to understand how to get your alcoholic spouse into treatment: Discuss the various treatment options that are available and find the best one for him so that he can get better as soon as possible. PCOS and Hypothyroidism- Successful IUI's- May 2012 and October 2014. To help you more to understand, Is my husband an alcoholic?, listed below are also some pointers on how to live with an alcoholic husband. to catch during the initial few meetings, but by the time you get to know about it, it is too late. It is also important to seek professional. for fear that he would pass out. I had to go to the hospital for a D&C with my first pregnancy as the baby stopped growing and there was no heartbeat, but I didnt miscarriage automatically. Telling my sister that if we needed her, to call the house where he would be at and someone would give him a message, since he didnt think the baby would be born for quite a while. 10000% this. The *only* reason I left the room when she was in labor was to go to the bathroom. That first night, my husbands parents took him to eat a fancy steak dinner while I was stuck in the hospital eating cafeteria food and playing hostess to15 or so unannounced visitors who all showed up at the same time. Delivery type: Vaginal that progressed to C-section. Just have a back-up plan ready so you don't need to stress about himmaybe a family member lives close by? Why do I remember the date so well? Second baby he was pretty good, except for when I would have a contraction (went through natural labors each time, no epidural, very little IV medication), he would look at the screen and say wow, that one went off the charts! and I would say you dont have to say that each time, Im going through it! My husband also told me at one point that hearing the doctor give me the episiotomy sounded like someone cutting raw chicken with scissors. Labor and delivery for Baby #3 were pretty uneventful, but I made it clear that I considered being in the hospital a vacation of sorts. Laughing gas has been widely available for laboring women in other countries, and it's finally making its way to hospitals and . But he was back at the hospital within the hour and he slept on that rediculously tiny hospital couch all night. Once we got to the hospital, though, he was great. My DH never drinks like that, unless we're headed out for a crazy night with friends (every once in a while) or to a wedding or something. And that he has a choice to make but if he wants to "risk" drinking each night then that's his problem if he isn't there. Every nurse who came to check on me kept asking me if my husband was coming to be with me. My mother, being Korean and not knowing any English had the most difficult time getting a hold of him. Also I agree with a pp that it should be a conversation on the weekend or when he's realaxed and preferably sober. My hubby is a talker, too. . Sadly, this will only make things worse and nothing else. It sounds like you and your H are both in denial (as apparently are a few other posters on this thread). At 4 weeks premature my water broke at 4am. Labor Story #8: The waiting game (41 weeks / vaginal to C-section) Location: Alexandria, Va. Year: 2013. I find it pretty fvcked up that you are okay with him drinking a "few drinks every night" since someone else can drive you to give birth to yours and HIS own child. It was her birthday and 12 days from her due date, her hubby had a few drinks and she went to the bathroom and her water broke. She told him and he freaked out, made himself puke (totally tmi) and then was a paranoid mess the whole drive to the hospital. This is not an average, it is the maximum recommended amount for any given day. He was drinking coffee, eating breakfast and taking care of the dogs because they were going to be caged up all day. I like the suggestion that if he's buzzed, he's not invited into the delivery room, and HE has to call his folks to explain why THEY need to drive me to the hospital. At the hospital he asked over and over If he could leave to go get himself dinner. Here are 12 Natural Ways to Induce Labor. Are there any good books for hubby that explain the importance of truly supporting the wife? There is no scientific proof to show that drinking alcohol can help in inducing labor. of theirs under any circumstances. A few hours post-surgery I started having a strong adverse reaction to the epidural which included profuse sweating, intense itching and hallucinations. It's just that the cumulative effect of 4-5 drinks from 5pm until 10 or 11 makes me worry. He's turning 30 - his birthday isn't some magical day where responsibilities don't apply to him I'm currently TTC and my husband already knows that he isn't getting drunk during my entire final month (36 weeks on) unless there is a plan for someone else to drive me. The only challenge that arises at that moment is neither your husband needs your help at that very moment nor youre a professional counselor. How long has it been since you had a drink? Experiencing a craving for alcohol. I spent the entire time in the hospital alone. With our third i forgot something to wear home and baby outfits so he had to go shopping for me and lets just say men DO NOT know how to shop for women or babies!!! I was in labor half the night and at around 7 am I say to my hubby its time to go to the hospital. My husband was awesome! He slept it off too long, that should be the only issue, nit that he ate. We had attended Lamaze together and learned the stages of labor. And the idea that being in labor will sober up a buzzed husband is absurd, it may make him seem sober but I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that he'd blow over the limit (or really close to it) on a breathalyzer test--that's a great way to get to L&D, in a police cruiser while your husband goes to the drunk tank. She drives me to my place, which looks surreal in the morning light. I was only at the hospital for two hours before she arrived. What Red Raspberry Leaf Tea can do: Strengthen and tone the uterus. Oh, yeah, I am sure he will slow it down. During pregnancy, the cervix stays closed and plugged up with mucus (aptly called the "mucus plug"). As soon as they moved me into the rooms near the nursery, he went home because he was tired and me being in labor kept him up all night. When the July 14, 2012 due date of Gainesville, Florida resident Melissa Hoh came and went, her husband's friends told him about a news story they'd read in 2006 about three women going into labor . HELLO! And that I hadnt eaten dinner and was starving. However, this might give you peace of mind for a moment. Camera. The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. Know your own limitations. When he finally woke up to go pee, I asked him for some ice chips and he told me he was tired and was just going to go back to sleep. It was 4am when I decided to wake up my husband (this was 2 hours after dealing with the labor on my own) and I told him its getting so much stronger now. Dont come to me saying look what your child did. It is always our child. How do you know he will take you seriously if you tell him you are uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking? And never forgot it. Normally, contractions begin before the water breaks. So when my mom showed up to help out, hes so busy talking to her that Im having to hit him in the arm every time a contraction came so he would rub my back the only thing I asked him to do (hard back labor). This message, when put right, will force them to be in their best mood despite being overly drunk. Posted 6/9/10. The following morning,he woke up very early and went to work! Hopefully not, so perhaps you can work that angle to get him to realize that he has to drive you to the hospital. I shoot him a look and he says oh, I thought you would drive. I was 7cm dilated when they checked me in. Yeah. After our daughter was born he Hoping to cure the problem. In the throes of that hell my husband turns to me and says, Im about to head out and meet up with the fellas. My darling husband looks at me tenderly and askes So, when do you want to have the next one? 48 hours of 7 to 10 minute contractions and sent home from the hospital twiceyeah, I almost punched him in the face. Look at some of the comments and then talk about stupid. So I stand behind some, I never said all, of these comments are just bitchy. I called and called and called him just to get that annoying beep saying he was already on the phone (with his brother) he would not answer my call. Needless to say, when, four weeks later he was resting a pack of frozen peas on his testicles from the vasectomy hed breezily put his hand up for, my sympathy levels were small to non-existent. He then goes home and sleeps on and off for 10 hours (in between bouts of explosive diahrrea) while Im at the hospital with our first newborn daughter, ALONE. The. A. Holy fuuk. Mortified. I still give him crap about it almost four years later now. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. If it's 5 hard drinks every night I would say that's a bit excessive to unwind. I said the baby is coming now. She said she would kill me if i left or fainted so, yeah, i was there for her..lol, I wouldve called my nurse in and asked her to slap him! Since I had to have a c-section he stayed in the hospital with me the 3 days sleeping on the couch and changed ALL the diapers. Your water better not break on my leather seats!.
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